Today, there was a family get-together. The boys had been with my mother all day and she took them there. I came a bit later and as always, my boys gave me a warm welcome when they saw me. I had been looking forward to meeting everyone as I hadn’t met all of them since we moved back to Iceland. It was nice to see everyone, especially the kids who’ve grown so big since last time I was in Iceland. I think they were also glad to see us, particularly because most of them haven’t seen us in a very long time – most of them, not since we learned that the boys were autistic.
This post is derived from my last post “Mothers, Let’s Not Judge Each Other” but is more directed towards autism and how parents of autistic kids are sometimes judged by other parents, even verbally accused of being inadequate parents in some occasions. This may come as a surprise but one has to consider the many ways autistic kids and their way of expressing themselves differs from that considered “normal” and “socially acceptable”. And when someone diverges from the norm, it unfortunately often brings out judgmental reactions from others. So what is there to be done?